Although there is no sure way to tell if someone is cheating, a body language expert has revealed the signs helping you spot a fake in seconds.
Vanessa Van Edwards, a public speaker and author who teaches communication skills and effective communication, spoke on The Diary Of a CEO podcast recently where she shared four signs to know.
Red flags include answering questions, low volume, inappropriate body language and awkward posture.
Van Edwards told the host Steven Bartlett that the average person can see a lie by 54 percent.
‘It’s good to throw money,’ he said.
Van Edwards said that the main symptom is looking dirty because he experiences those feelings when he is cheating on someone.
‘Liars are often dirty when they lie, they are often disgusted by their lies,’ he explained.
They can also smell, he added, which is a ‘disgusting factor.’
When people are disgusted, they wrinkle their noses, close their noses and flash the tops of their teeth, giving others a visible sign of a liar.
Vanessa Van Edwards, a public speaker and author who teaches public speaking and communication skills, said that stuttering when someone is speaking is a sure sign that they are lying.
‘There are some fraudulent figures,’ he explained. ‘It is clear that, time and time again, research finds that liars do – but not always.’
‘There is no nose for Pinocchio. There are no words that mean someone is lying. But there are a number of clues that come up again and again,” Van Edward said.
Van Edwards said another telltale sign is when someone says one thing, but their body says something else.
She gave an example by asking her daughter if she cleans her room to which her daughter says ‘yes’ while shaking her head.
“You’re going to see this again with a disjointed look,” Van Edwards said.
But there is an exception to this rule. In IndiaBulgaria is Pakistanpeople nod differently than people in western cultures.
Outside of these countries, inconsistency is a common sign of lying.
Another clue is answering questions, also called Uptalk, which is when a word ends with a question.
Vanessa Van Edwards is a public speaker and author who teaches public relations and communication skills
Here’s an example: ‘I don’t know what you’re talking about, do you?’
“It’s very suspicious if someone is talking and suddenly they’re asking a question — if they’re not asking a question,” Van Edwards said.
‘If you suddenly hear a question being used in a word, or a number, or a limit, or a time frame,’ he said, ‘It’s a little red flag that says: dive deep.’
A low voice is another sign of fraud.
He said: ‘When we are worried or scared, our voices are slurred and we lose our breath.’
So if the person you are talking to is silent, what they are saying to you at that time may not be honest.
While these signs don’t mean someone is lying, paying attention to these behaviors is a powerful way to detect dishonesty in your relationship.
Some experts have also pointed out some things that can help you tell if someone is lying.
Author and former FBI agent Joe Navarro said The Guardian that self-comforting behavior may indicate that a person is experiencing ‘mental confusion.’
These behaviors may include rocking, changing or playing with their clothes and stroking or touching their faces.
Paying attention to other people’s words can also help you smell a lie, insurance fraud consultant Gabrielle Stewart III told The Guardian.
He said: ‘We use very different words when we lie.’
‘A classic example is President Nixon. He was asked bluntly: ‘Do you know about Watergate?’ and his answer was: ‘The President cannot do that.’
‘First, he has dissociation, which is very common. In false narratives, there is a lack of ‘I’ and ‘mine’, because we want to push the lie to ourselves.
‘So, he’s running out of time,’ he added.
‘An honest person whose car has been stolen, for example, will say: ‘I left it here, I came back an hour later and it was gone.’ A false narrative can be more extreme: ‘I’m walking down the street and I’m looking at my car, and I think…’
While both experts emphasize that these signs don’t always mean someone is lying, keeping an eye out for them is a powerful way to spot dishonesty in your friends.
