It’s a sad fact of life that many women are told to expect: sex stops at 60.
Although their vaginal libido doesn’t disappear overnight, doctors say that when women enter perimenopause, their libido drops significantly due to vaginal dryness.
After a few uncomfortable efforts, it just doesn’t seem worth it.
It can be soul-crushing. And yes, it can feel very unfair, especially since men’s sexual lifespan can be easily extended with cheap prescription pills.
Even though women use ointment, it ‘disappears in five minutes’, he says, leaving them begging their boyfriends to stop Menopause Expert Dr. Ginny Mansberg.
Dr. Mansberg, who has helped many perimenopausal women recover their sex life from her Sydney Clinic and with the book sold M wordVaginal dryness is responsible for unfair stereotypes about older women, he said.
“Mom doesn’t want to have sex” jokes abound. But it’s just the pain, not a lack of desire, Dr Mansberg, 56, told FEMAIL.
By the age of 65, 80 percent of women experience extreme dryness in the vagina, which causes discomfort during sex, she said.
Dr. Mansberg, who has helped many postmenopausal women regain their sex lives, says that vaginal dryness is the cause of unfair stereotypes about older women.
It can be soul-crushing. And yes, it can also feel very unfair, especially since men’s sexual lifespan can be easily extended with a cheap prescription.
‘It can be uncomfortable all the time, not just during sex. Even underwear can cause discomfort, itching or pain,’ she said.
But there is a long-term solution that can make women feel more comfortable in two weeks: using an estrogen-based cream.
In her experience, Dr. Mansberg has had patients see results within a week, and most see significant improvements within three months.
People need to have these conversations. It’s common and very treatable, says Dr. Mansberg, who says many women who use the cream wish they’d tried it sooner.
‘It should be applied every day for two weeks and then twice a week after that,’ she said.
Vaginal dryness is not the only symptom of perimenopause; It can affect women in their mid-thirties.
It causes many women to stop having sex altogether. And it made them feel anxious,’ she said.
‘If left untreated, it’s the absolute worst. It’s not a big problem when it’s treated,’ she says.
Revealed: How Much Sex You Should Be Having According to Your Age Range (So How Does Your Love Life Measure Up?)
Whether the fire of passion is well and truly burning in your relationship, or you’re just barely managing intimacy, you’re probably wondering if the regularity of your sex life is ‘normal’.
Now you can find out, thanks to research from the Kinsey Institute for Sex, Gender and Reproduction.
Researchers have found that you can tell how your sex life measures up to others, based on your age, which is one of the main predictors of how often you will be intimate with your partner.
Perhaps it’s no surprise that young people between the ages of 18 and 29 have sex an average of 112 times a year, or twice a week.
Age is a key predictor of how often you’ll have sex, according to a study by the Kinsey Institute for Sex, Gender, and Reproductive Research (stock photo).
Between the ages of 30 and 39, it decreases to 86 times a year or 1.6 times a week.
And for 40- to 49-year-olds, half of the 20-somethings have sex, making love 69 times a year.
The basic story line emerging from these studies is that as we age, we become more likely to develop chronic health problems, which negatively impact the frequency and quality of sexual activity. Institute explained.
Interestingly, the study didn’t go beyond people in their 50s and older, which seems to support a separate study that says sex among older adults is largely ignored.
Researchers at the University of Manchester analyzed the written comments of more than 1,000 adults aged 50 to 90 and identified the barriers some older couples face to maintaining and fulfilling their sex lives.
Many were reporting symptoms of depression after doctors refused to address their reduced sex drive or physical problems, he said.
Men were found to be more likely to discuss the impact of health conditions on their sexual function.
Surprisingly, researchers found that 18- to 19-year-olds were the most active between the sheets, having sex twice a week on average (stock photo by models).
Heart disease, high blood pressure and diabetes are common causes of impotence in men.
However, women are more likely to discuss health-related sexual problems in the context of a relationship.
Experts advise to engage positively with issues of sexual activity – regardless of age.
They believe that actively talking about their issues can help improve the health and well-being of older patients.
